Beat Deaf
So a while back I came across this article about a neurological condition called “beat deafness.”
The basic idea as I understand it is that there exist a small number of folks whose ability to recognize and respond to rhythm is impaired for neurological reasons. Now, I am not a scientist, but I have been teaching dance and music for over a decade and my life has been intimately concerned with rhythm, and while the idea of a neurological foundation for rhythmic impairment may indeed prove to be true for a small and specialized segment of the population, I can just hear legions of people who think they can’t dance and have no sense of rhythm saying “Yes! That’s me!” and feeling like they have been let off the hook somehow.
Well I just don’t buy it.
I cannot even begin to count the number of times I have heard people say things like “Oh, I love what you do, but I could never do that. I have no sense of rhythm.” Or “I wish I wasn’t completely tone-deaf.” Or my personal favorite; “It must be wonderful to have so much talent.” (This last is an actual quote. It’s a pretty difficult statement to think of a comeback for.)
Here’s what I think often happens. People see the end result of a lot of practice and some pretty hard work and think it’s some magical ability. I don’t know, maybe there is some magic in it, but what is not always visible when watching someone do something they do well is the unbelievable amount of tenacity that goes into that process. Part of skill is making the execution of that skill seem effortless. But that is because the effort has already happened.
I don’t mean to discount natural ability. As a teacher one does encounter students who seem to take to music or dance more easily than others. We could debate the nature/nurture question until the cows come home, (I personally believe in a mixture of both innate and environmental factors) but let’s skip that for the moment and accept that there do exist dance or music students who struggle a lot less than others for the development of the internal metronome. However, for every one of them, I guarantee you there is someone out there who plays/dances like a natural and had to fight for every inch of their skills, paying for their ability with practice, frustration and long stretches of “why the hell am I doing this? This is really hard…”
I believe that what separates most people from skilled musicians, dancers etc is blind persistence. It’s the old 90% perspiration idea. The inspiration is important but even more so is the willingness to go ahead and learn. And big part of that process is learning to accept being bad at things for a time while your brain and body synthesize new skills
Which is, let’s face it, pretty hard. Some of you may remember my struggles at Jacob’s Pillow last summer. The ability to accept being a beginner and not take yourself too seriously is really tough. It’s one thing if you are an autodidact, working by yourself. It’s quite another in a group situation where a fair amount of personal humiliation crops up for most of us when we are learning alongside others.
But somewhere along the way, if you spend enough time doing something, especially if you are not just going through the motions but actively trying to get better and really focusing as you work, you experience this weird feedback loop. Things fall into place and it starts to feel good, just for a moment. You get it. And the memory of that moment’s elation drives you to keep working on it. And then at some point it actually is easy.
So easy that you don’t have to think about it. And someone watching you thinks “Well, clearly she came out of the womb that way.” I can forgive them for thinking that, but as you may have guessed, I am on a little bit of a mission to convince people that they can do it too. They just have to make the mental leap, believe it’s possible, and then spend time doing it. And getting frustrated. And coming back to the table (or in our case as dancers the floor) with a willingness to remold themselves.
Why do I care if folks think they can dance? Not just because I am a teacher and stand to benefit from more people wanting to learn…
I believe that as a culture we have gone badly astray somewhere, becoming deeply disconnected from our physical selves and from our fellow human beings. It maybe sounds trite, but how many ills, social and otherwise could be solved by people gathering regularly to dance, sing, play music? Not hard to answer for anyone who dabbles in an instrument or has ever been social dancing. Once you have felt the raw power of that kind of shared experience, I don’t think you can ever go back.
How does the saying go? Something like “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you are right.” Well guess what? It’s true. I didn’t mean for this to end up as a pep talk, I think I started out ranting about the misguided belief so many people seem to have that they are missing some critical piece of hardware, preventing them from dancing or playing an instrument, but now I bloody well am cheerleading. Whether you realize it or not. You need dance in your life.
So the only question is, where are you going to dance?


Early morning here and I’m up alone. What a great way to start the day. Persistence!!! And then elation!!! Thanks, Matt. And Good Morning to you.
YES!!! I’ve spent over 25 years teaching now and in all that time I did have one, ONE, student who I finally told that perhaps banjo wasn’t their instrument. Persistence is everything, and I am very grateful for the reminder this morning! Thanks : )
I love this! I have been on a similar mission all my life as I’ve taught music to all ages. I worked with many private guitar and ukulele students who thought they had no rhythm and could not keep a beat. In particular, an adult student, Dale grew up in a religion where no dancing was allowed. He couldn’t strum in time and sing along. We spent our first minutes of each lesson first patting our knees and counting aloud to 4 or 3. over and over. Then we walked to that counting. He couldn’t do it at first and then slowly as his brain was reprogrammed, he got it! and it came easier all the time…then to try to sing as he strummed! – little by little. He was persistent and became an accomplished player and singer. Such transformation – i love it!
I work with preschool teachers and show them how to sing in tune. That’s another area where people are convinced they just can’t do it – usually linked to childhood and someone who told them they were a “bad singer”. We work slowly and I show each person how to match a pitch and “feel” it – and then tell them if they can sing one not in tune, they can sing anything and they are not “tone deaf”. In 30 years of doing this I have never met someone who can match one pitch and then go from there.
I’m happy you’re doing this work! I’m a friend of Cis’s from Atlanta!
Thanks everyone! Always nice to connect with others fighting the same battles… As teachers we must never feel unimportant. The work we do is vital.
And nice to web-meet you Julie, I have known Cis since I was just a tot, in fact she is probably a big part of the reason I dance, as she was a caller at many of my early dance experiences that got me hooked… Looking forward to seeing her at Augusta Dance Week later this summer…
Interesting theory. They’re trying to explain everything genetically nowadays; obesity, rhythm-deafness, even dislike of cilantro. While there may be a few people out there who are neurologically/genetically beat- or tone-deaf, I think it has more to do with environment, and just like language acquisition, early experience does help. In the west we have so many people who grow up outside of any immediate musical culture; where music is something that is consumed, not made, and trying to teach someone who has never really paid attention to music or rhythm can be a challenge. Compare that with cultures where song and dance is part of their own family/community life. Where nearly everybody knows how to do this for example: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ddI_7OogpZA&feature=related . And yet even in this community, more and more young people can’t dance or sing today, and seem “tone deaf.” They certainly didn’t get it from their parents.
The beat-deafness is a real thing. It might not yet be proven to be genetic, but please don’t trash this condition because some people don’t give you credit for the work you have have put into your art. I have beat-deafness — I can’t clap along to anything, I have to look at people around me and mimic them. I can’t tap my feet or fingers to music. It really sucks, and it’s humiliating. I love music, but it’s an effort and causes me stress to try and move to it. I have gone through life trying to hide this deficiency. Please be respectful of this.
Hi Michelle,
First off, I sincerely apologize. I did NOT mean to disparage or make light of anyone with a genuine neurological condition, and I do hope you will allow me to explain and accept my apologies if I have offended you.
If I sounded a little flippant in my initial post, it was not directed at you or anyone with a real disability. Here however, is how it shakes down from my perspective as a dancer, musician, and firstly, a teacher of same. There are many many people out there who do not have this condition, who subscribe to a general cultural removal from the idea that ordinary every day people who are not Michael Jackson can learn to dance or play an instrument. I have heard variations on the following literally hundreds of times: “You are so talented. I could never do what you do.” This from people who I am convinced, do not lack the capacity, but merely the willingness to learn, and be “bad” at something for a while, until they get the training, practice and facility that will allow them to get “good.” I have myself taught people who were convinced they could never learn how to dance, only to watch them “get it” with enough practice. And I have watched more than one set of parents TELL THEir CHILDREN, IN FRONT OF ME “you couldn’t do that, you don’t have any musical talent.” Which, needless to say, makes me feel a little sad.
So my beef is not with you, or indeed any one person but with the larger culture that removes itself from dancing and music making for personal enjoyment. And my fear, upon reading the article that sparked my original post, was that people of the kind described above would read the article and self-diagnose themselves with beat deafness, and feel perfectly justified in believing they had no musical or movement ability.
But all of this is academic, and mostly, I am heartily sorry for any offense I have given. Please accept my apologies!
-MJO